The documentation for SendMessageCallback tells you, why your callback will not ever be called:
If the target window belongs to a different thread from the caller, then the callback function is called only when the thread that called SendMessageCallback also calls GetMessage, PeekMessage, or WaitMessage.
The target window obviously belongs to a different thread, because it runs in a different process. Your code doesn’t perform any message retrieval. No callback.
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