This will give you all the subs where the Mem and Sub are not the same.
SELECT SUB
    FROM TABLE
    WHERE MEM <> SUB
This will give you a distinct list of Sub’s that, at one point or another, do not have a matching MEM.
SELECT DISTINCT SUB
    FROM TABLE
    WHERE MEM <> SUB
EDIT:
I WANT TO FIND OUT ALL SUB THATHAS ONLY ONE MEM
This is a really simple SQL query.  You’ll probably learn it better if you did some research.
Regardless, here is what you need:
SELECT SUB
  , COUNT(MEM) AS CountOfMem
     FROM TABLE
     GROUP BY SUB
     HAVING COUNT(MEM) = 1
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